Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Busy

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This morning I'm slowly sipping my tea. The shower hasn't started, we're all lazing around in our pajamas. We have no place to be, except possibly the library later to exchange books. This morning is a deep sigh of relief after a busy start to the week. 

Busy. 

I don't utter that word often. We lead a purposefully un-busy life. It's part of why we homeschool. It's part of why I say no often. It is intentional. It works best for our family. For all of us. When we get too busy things begin to fall apart. There's disconnect. 

So when we are busy, it is not the norm. I forget that busy is the new normal for many. I often hear: "yeah, but that's life. We're all busy." 

It doesn't have to be that way.  Yes, we all have stuff going on. There's always laundry to do. Projects underway. That stuff is life, sure. But not busy. Busy doesn't make a life more or less meaningful. I understand that it's not often a choice, but sometimes it is. That's the kind of busy I'm talking about. The kind of busy that gets worn like a badge of honor. It fills life to the edges. Some people thrive on that, but not all of us. I like a lot of room around my edges.

The first few days of our week were unusually busy. Today I'm glad for some breathing room, for regular life to continue. The burst of busy energy  has gone back into the occasional closet, where it belongs. Not in the forefront of our lives. 

6 comments:

  1. I feel more relaxed just reading this.

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  2. I'm with you on this one. I like less busy, more being. It works for us and our family. I'm often just exhausted listening to others' itineraries!

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  3. I agree 100%. We have been busy lately. So much more then usual. And I am feeling it. We all are feeling it. Stressed, tired more, cranky more, unkind words are being uttered more. I was starting to wonder what was going on until I looked at our days since the end of last week and it's just because we haven't had a change to just BE. I need to change that!

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  4. Yes. Exactly. That's what we're striving for too. A purposeful life, not a busy one.

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  5. we've been busy as well, and like you I hate to use the word. But sometimes it's just so.

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  6. I'm with you. One of my favorite books is Margin and it gave me a name for what I needed and felt and couldn't always put into words. Most of my friends like living life much more "on the go" than me and that's okay. That makes them thrive, but not me (or my kids). We have co-op on Monday and a science class on Friday otherwise we're home except for soccer this fall. I've had to say "no" to alot: ballet lessons, art lessons, homeschool PE day at the gym. Not no to my kids, who couldn't care less but others. But it is important to know what works for you.

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